There is probably no more confusing “game” than the game of love. Let’s face it; love doesn’t come with an instruction manual. There are no set-in-stone rules. That only complicates matters. How do you know you are in love? When does the person you are “seeing” become your “boyfriend” or “girlfriend”? At what point does going out together turn into dating? When does “Like” become “Love”?
Love is an amazing emotion. It can get you in trouble and it can bring you bliss. But, where is the line? How do you know when to make that leap to love? It can take a lifetime to know get to know another person. I believe that the greatest relationships start with a solid friendship, because when the chips are down in the relationship, and inevitably they will be down at some point, if you don’t have the friendship to fall back on, you have nothing.
It’s easy to get caught up in the endorphin highs that a new relationship can bring. It’s easy to lose sight of reality. It is both exciting and frustrating to find a balance and to know in our heart of hearts exactly what direction to go. Eventually, the emotions will settle.
Here’s my confession: I’ve recently met a guy, Blake, and we really like one another. We have similar commonalities and agree that we should take things slowly, although that is at times easier said than done. Are we dating? Are we just seeing one another? I don’t know. I guess the decision of what to call things is ours, and should be made in our time. We should guard our hearts and take things slow. After all, if it is meant to be, it is meant to be. We should enjoy one another’s company and enjoy getting to know one another. If anyone out there finds the instruction manual for love, please send me a copy!
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I'll send you my worn copy...TAKE YOUR SWEET TIME!!!!!
many years ago, my best friend and i were double-dating two beauty pageant winners. during this date we brought up how he and i both felt that dating was a 'game.' the women were affronted. love is never a game to them! the problem is, they didn't know the game even though the two of them were MASTERS at playing it. my friend dated his pageant winner, on and off, for a year and a half. she dated at least one other guy, who is now a good friend of ours, pretty much the entire time.
all that said, you're newly single. don't rush it. yes, that is way easier said than done, but if he's good for you, he'll give you the time.
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