So, how did Lane and I get from where we were three weeks ago to where we are today? How did we get from a place of pain and hurt, of brokenness, of utter failure to the place we are today—a place without labels, a place of peace, a place of contentment and a place of renewed friendship?
It’s a question we’ve asked ourselves dozens of times over the past few weeks. It’s a question that no doubt has been a buzz in our social circle. And, really, the only good answer is Honesty, Grace, Truth and Philos.
We learned that being honest about our feelings was far better than trying to hide those the truth in order to spare emotions, it took a great deal of grace on both our parts to allow healing, being true to ourselves and one another and a true Philos for one another. Mending hurt feelings is a bit of a daily chore for us. But, removing expectations, labels and being open with one another have truly done something beyond our wildest imaginations.
Here’s my confession: I’m content now. I was afraid of losing a friend, but I think a friendship has been made stronger. Lane and I are adults. We can choose what we do with our lives as works best for us. There’s no need to tie labels to things, there’s no pressure to be something we are or aren’t. Perhaps our friendship, relationship, what have you, is a bit unorthodox, but then again, all of my relationships with my exes are unorthodox. The important part is maintaining a level of happiness, keeping the lines of communication open and just being honest. Because the truth, in most all circumstances, will set you free!
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Why must everything be labeled? I wouldn't worry about the buzz in your social circle. You and Lane are both wonderful people, and all that truly matters is what will make the two of you happy. Wherever this road you are on takes you the two of you have forged a strong friendship, and in my eyes that is what matters the most.
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